Sometimes littles things can change your life, make you happier, and maybe even inspire a big decision.
With my imminent move from New York to Portland, I have been contemplating… what is going to be different?
I somehow had this idea that moving to a new place will make me happier, less busy, and more fulfilled. But why do I think moving to Portland is going to change anything?
Why do I think moving is going to make my life any better?
Here’s the truth — if I continue to do similar things, fill up my time, and make myself busy, NOTHING will change.
I’ll be just as restless as I am in New York. I’d continue to look for things to fix in my life no matter where I live.
If I’m not happy where I am right now, it doesn’t matter where I move to. My life will be exactly the same way.
Big changes like moving, changing jobs, or even changing relationships never really changed anything. What’s really going to make my life different are the little things, the things that I can do differently, right now, without moving anywhere.
So I started digging… why did it feel different the 4 weeks that I was in Portland? What did I do so differently that made me so happy and decided to move across the country?
These little changes don’t require a massive project. They are simple things that can make a huge difference.
1. Me Time
That time of connecting with myself gave me clarity, and space to appreciate all the beautiful little things in life that I otherwise wouldn’t notice. It’s true when they say stop to smell the roses. If you don’t ever stop, you’ll never smell or see anything even though the most amazing things are happening right in front of you.
2. Chai Latte (or your expression of it)
3. Space Fillers – NOT!
4. Come Alive – And Do It Often
5. Play & Connect
With the extra time that both of us had, we did touristy and Portlandian things that we otherwise would never have done.
The difference was PASSION!
There was a fresh sense of passion in what we did, we were willing to try new things even if they were silly and ridiculous (like making a terrarium). The side effect was a fresh sense of passion in our relationship, even though everything seemed normal and the same. But the fact that we made time to play with each other led to a deeper connection that we weren’t aware of, until it disappeared when we got back home.
That’s why people tend to fall in love again when they go on vacation, because they actually make time and space for each other.
This time we spent together allowed me to appreciate and see the beauty of having a partner in my life. It’s something that I easily forget when I’m mired in the day to day details of doing life.
For now, I am committed to moving our “Portland living” back to our New York life at the moment, and doing more of the little things that matter.
Share in the comment below: What little things are you going to do today that make you happy, and maybe change your life?