We love to ask why! We just love that question.
Why did that happen?
Why can’t I ….?
Why wouldn’t he/she…?
I can keep going for days asking why’s.
A friend recently told me that she has a lot of anxiety after having a baby.
She said “I’m worried and anxious all the time.”
She’s ready to release that and move on. But at the same time, she’s holding onto it.
She said: “I don’t understand why that happened. And I want to understand.”
Sometimes trying to understand the why might be the exact reason that got you stuck.
It’s a good reason to get stuck there.
- It gives us some drama and something to talk about;
- It’s a great problem to solve, for those who needs the stimulation of problem solving; and
- There’s something to be said about having an explanation about life circumstances, our little human brain just really really craves it.
A friend said to me once: “It’s ok to not know why, and you may never know why.”
We all tell ourselves it’s ok to not know why, but it’s the second half that really hit me… I may NEVER know why!
Same with your situation, you may never know why. So if you are thinking that I’ll move on when I figure out why… it may take you a lifetime and never get there.
The choice is yours. Spend you whole life trying to understand why, or live it?