How to Recover from Getting Stuck in the WHY - sabihealing.com

How to Recover from Getting Stuck in the WHY

We love to ask why! We just love that question.

Why did that happen?

Why me?

Why can’t I ….?

Why wouldn’t he/she…?

I can keep going for days asking why’s.

A friend recently told me that she has a lot of anxiety after having a baby.

She said “I’m worried and anxious all the time.”

She’s ready to release that and move on. But at the same time, she’s holding onto it.

She said: “I don’t understand why that happened. And I want to understand.”

Sometimes trying to understand the why might be the exact reason that got you stuck.

It’s a good reason to get stuck there.

  1. It gives us some drama and something to talk about;
  2. It’s a great problem to solve, for those who needs the stimulation of problem solving; and
  3. There’s something to be said about having an explanation about life circumstances, our little human brain just really really craves it.

A friend said to me once: “It’s ok to not know why, and you may never know why.”

We all tell ourselves it’s ok to not know why, but it’s the second half that really hit me… I may NEVER know why!

Same with your situation, you may never know why. So if you are thinking that I’ll move on when I figure out why… it may take you a lifetime and never get there.

The choice is yours. Spend you whole life trying to understand why, or live it? 

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